Which Lube is Best?
If there’s one thing that we recommend to everyone for their sex life, it’s lube. For nearly every kind of relationship and type of play that you enjoy, there is a lube that will complement it.
Let’s deal with the elephant in the room first though; there is a stigma that a heterosexual couple having vaginal sex shouldn’t need lube and that if they do, they’re “doing something wrong.” While it’s true that the vagina is usually self-lubricating (and cleaning, and just generally amazing) some women just don’t produce enough to be totally comfortable during sex. Even beyond that though; sometimes more is more. In the eternal words of Sebastian from The Little Mermaid;
“Darling it’s better, down where it’s wetter; take it from me.”
Since that quote from a crab in a Disney movie obviously settles the argument, let’s break down the different kinds of lube and when they should be used.
Water Based Lubricants: These are the classic granddaddies of lubes. They are non-staining (usually) and toy safe making them a great choice for a lot of different types of play. Water based lubes reduce friction allowing for more comfortable intercourse with a more natural feeling.
Water based lubes are great for:
- Sex toys, especially silicone ones
- Vaginal play
- Light massaging
- Sex using latex condoms
The biggest drawback of water based lubes is that they are not particularly long lasting. As their name implies, they are made up primarily of water so they are rub off and are absorbed into the skin quickly. Additionally, they will not last during any type of heavy water play, as in a tub or shower.
We still recommend water based lubes as a great tool to use during sex and with toys, just keep in mind that you will likely need to stop and reapply during.
Silicone Based Lubricants: If you’re looking to get rough, or don’t want to fuss with reapplying your lube as frequently then silicone lubes are the way to go.
Silicone based lubes are great for:
- Anal sex
- Water play
- Intense (think jackhammer) sex
- Sex using non-latex condoms
Silicone lubes are great; they’re thick, long-lasting, and some of them are even formulated with botanical skin care ingredients. The drawbacks of silicone based lubes are numerous though; they cannot be used with any silicone based toys, can be hard to clean up after, and disintegrate latex condoms. If you’re looking for a lubricant to keep up with your more intense anal or vaginal play though, there really isn’t anything better.
Flavored Lubricants: Want your partner to taste like coffee or fruit punch? Why not, right? Flavored lubes are great for oral sex no matter who is giving or receiving. The only caveat is that vagina’s should never have sugar inside of them so you cannot replace your favorite penetrative lube with a flavored one. Other than that, go nuts.
Sensation Lubricants: These types of lubes vary widely in how they feel, but they all make you feel something new. Warming lubes are great for both masturbation and sex, while tingling gels work by bringing more blood flow to the area you put them on (increasing your sensitivity). Stimulation creams and gels themselves may not be great for actual intercourse, but warming lubes definitely are.
Here is some helpful advice in general for selecting a lube:
- Always spot test new lubes! Whether you intend to use it with a toy or on skin, there’s always the small chance of a reaction. Spot test a sex toy on its base or somewhere else inconspicuous by putting a little bit of lube on and waiting a few minutes. For a skin test, try somewhere that is normally covered by clothes (but not your genitals!). In both cases if there is no reaction you are good to go. If there is a reaction, clean it off immediately.
- Never use silicone lubes on silicone. You’re going to need to just trust us on this one, it ain’t pretty.
- Clean yourself thoroughly. This is especially true for vaginal play, but really for everyone and everything. Clean your toys before and after use and at least wipe yourself down after.
We hope you’ve found this guide at least a little helpful – please feel free to comment down below with any questions that you might have!